What does it mean to LET YOUR SPACE TELL YOUR STORY?

 
honest spaces can tell our stories.png
 


You are writing a story.

The kind people repeat around a campfire or share with acquaintances on the sidewalk.


You’re writing a story with relationships, stories, actions, time, creativity, and love. And every life story includes hopes, dreams, goals, struggles, trials, and events.


And I’m here to tell you that your space(s) can provide dynamic, energetic support for your stories.

So, HOW do you let your space tell your story?

Well, you let it be honest.

The colors, the furniture and its arrangement, the decor, food, celebrations, items on display, frames on the walls — each of these can be intentionally chosen to tell a piece of your story.


Here are a few examples:

Do you value history and heritage? Is practicing remembrance part of your story? If so, display family heirlooms or items from your town that predate you. Allow yourself to let life’s big moments stay visible and present in your home. And when shopping, choose items that have a story.

Do you value creativity and innovation? Is adding hope in the world part of your story? If so, display sources of inspiration and the tools of your trade. Allow yourself to keep a piece, or reminder, of your work in a prominent place. And when shopping, choose items that also value creativity and innovation.

Do you value family and relationships? Is leaving a legacy part of your story? If so, display the things that build relationships in your home. Allow your family and individual stories to be featured in multiple places. And when shopping, choose items that further connection and speak to your legacy.

Do you value honesty and integrity? Is living a simple, handmade life part of your story? If so, display items and quotes that keep you grounded in your values. Allow the simple and the handmade to have the place of honor among your things and simplify what doesn’t fit. And when shopping, choose items that are simple, functional, and yes, likely handmade.

Remember, your home will tell more than one story at a time. And those stories will change over time.

That’s the beauty, your space can support your story today and it can help you tell a new version of your story in a year or ten years.

When we let our space be honest — meaning we focus on our values, our reality, and our dreams — then our space can tell our stories for us.


What does your space say?


Are you looking for practical ways your space can support your creativity, goals, and dreams?

If so, The Relentless Creative Handbook is for you!

Get your copy on Amazon today.

PUBLIC VS PRIVATE

 
 
place puts us at ease feel present.png
 
 

Architects often speak about architecture in code meant for other architects. Here’s an example:

Private vs Public (space/zones/layers.) Architects like to discuss elegant solutions to this design problem as if everyone understands this is an important issue in the first place.

So, here’s what we’re talking about and why we care:

private spaces are rooms or spaces intended solely for use by those who live or work in the building while public spaces are intended for use by those who visit the building. This delineation matters (beyond the obvious physical safety reasons) because it effects a person’s perceived safety, cognitive clarity, and emotional comfort.

In a retail shop this often looks like a wall at the back with a door marked “Employees only.” In a house this balance is more delicate though.

If you enter someone’s house and are standing in front of a bedroom it’s confusing. You feel uncomfortable and wish you’d declined the invitation to visit. What follows is an awkward process of figuring out where you belong and the lay of the land.

Simply put, when public and private spaces are combined confusion is the outcome. And confused minds might panic, shut down, or become belligerent; which hinders connection, relationship, and/or business.

Hospitals offer good large-scale public examples. We’ve all visited hospitals that calmed our fears and those that sent our panic into overdrive. Part of the calm-hospital experience was knowing that you were in the right part of the hospital at the right time.

Few of us like what we don’t know. the more a place puts us at ease the easier it is to be present.

This is true at clothing stores, hospitals, and homes.

So, how might you arrange your home so as to put people at ease and benefit relationships?

You can use:

  • color — where different “zones” utilize different wall colors

  • furniture — consider arrangements and even changing styles from one area of the home to another to make it clear where everyone should gather

  • art — art tells a story and gives your guest a clue as to what you’re about  

  • practical details — an obvious place for coats, shoes, purses, etc. is calming

If you’d like even more tools to create a calm and honest home . . .

what your home has to do with your new years resolution

 
 
use your space to clarify your focus.png
 
 

So you have a New Years resolution, goal, word, or focus?

If so, you also need tools to bring those plans into reality.

Do you know you have a powerful tool ready and available? You do . . . and it’s your home!

Your space is subconsciously powerful.

Simply place your intentions in your field of vision and you will be encouraged in your efforts. 

How do you place your intentions in your field of vision?

  1. You can clarify your focus with something as simple as framing a word or phrase and placing it on a desk or shelf.

  2. You can also move an object that symbolizes your goals into a prominent place in your home so you see it daily.

  3. And if your goals are emotional/relational you may consider re-arranging a room or two so they encourage stories and protect relationships. 


Want more ways to empower your home and relationships? Get these free affirmations:

Spacious Living


Spacious living is about having ample room in your days for what matters most. 


 

What would spacious living look like for you this month?

 

Would it look like: 

  • time to decompress

  • time to pursue a dream

  • time with family or friends

  • a regular health or creative practice

  • space to actively create

  • space to rest

  • adventure

  • creative community

 

The photos below are to act as idea generators more than definitions. They are moments from my own practice of building a spacious life so I share them strictly as inspiration. What would your "spacious living" photos look like?

 

 
 
hike 2.jpg

Hidden creativity

The visible part of creating and presenting or selling something is but a portion of the creative process.

Before then there had to be time:

  • Time to dream and dream and dream 
  • Time to plan
  • Time to learn skills
  • Time to develop a rhythm or style
  • Time to research
  • Time to synthesize information
  • Time to make connections
  • Time to build support systems
  • Time to gather tools and materials
  • Time to experiment
  • Time to fail
  • Time to dream again
  • Time to start the whole process over again

There's no shortcut to creating original, meaningful work. This is a journey.  And it's worth the effort.

Get The Relentless Creative Handbook and learn to make space for the journey.

 

 
cheers to the relentless
 
 

Use your energy wisely

 
your creative energy must be directed

 

In order to use your energy wisely your creative energy must be directed towards an appropriate problem or project.

Unfocused creative energy can attack those closest to you because boredom + intensity is unpredictable. This path can drain your resources, is exhausting, produces no real benefit for the effort expended, and often leaves a wake of confusion in its path.

It's simple enough to avoid that pain though. If you must create (and we all create on a daily basis) find an appropriate project for your energy, passion, and skill. 

 

 

The joy of editing my book

The first time I sent The Relentless Creative Handbook off to my editor I wasn't sure what I had created. 

I knew it was unlike anything I had created before. I knew I had written things I wanted to share with (and about) relentless creatives. I knew it was a special project with potential.

But was it any good? That I didn't know.

I quickly coached myself into accepting that it wasn't up to me to decide the answer to such a question. The only thing to do was. . . wait. 

Thankfully I was only waiting on my editor and she had to get back to me in a timely manner. And she did so with positive, encouraging words. She confirmed that this was a special project full of heart. I was able to exhale. I was then surprised when feelings of success and pride washed over me. The book was still a long way from being a physical book in my hands and yet the fear and uncertainty were gone. 

I had accomplished my goal. I made something. I put it out there for editing (critique) and it came back more real than when I sent it.

See, something that had only lived in my head, heart and computer had become visible and tangible. It was now a real thing that could be discussed and critiqued and enjoyed and beneficial.  

As a lover of process, I was glad that there were two more rounds of editing ahead of us. The editing process had proved itself to be empowering. Each round was unique while still being both challenging and up-lifting.

How exciting it is to see a thing you've created with fresh perspective and living outside your own head. This is why taking action on your dreams is a part of the creative process rather than the end.

As real as the dream can be, action makes it real on a whole new level . . . a level that can be discussed and critiqued and enjoyed and beneficial.

Bringing dreams into reality is the creative's great success. 

 

 
 
 

Marking time

This week marks 3 months since my perfect baby boy stopped living. 

He was stillborn on his due date. 

As his life began about this time last year and we now face our first Christmas without our son I wanted to share a piece of our story. While there are so many things I could and will say (more than I have thus far on social media) I want to open his story here by sharing our art.

As the time drew near and I waited to meet my son, I began marking time by creating new art. It was more emotional and layered than anything I'd created before. It was meant to be personal; a visual exploration of ideas and emotions after the intensity of writing and editing a book in just 20 weeks while pregnant and working and parenting and house renovating. Yet now, in his absence, I'd like to share.

I've made 9 pieces available in the shop for only 23 days. The first 6 pieces were created in the last month of Oscar's life. The last 3 pieces have been created since his death. 

If you'd like to know my Oscar a little better or mark time along your own journey I'm sharing this for you. 

I will continue to mark time and I'm inviting you to join me.

Oscar.

 
The Relentless Creative marking time